This is Lizzy's story
Trans people are people who do not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. At the age of 12, Lizzy realised that she was different. 3 years later, she came out to her family as trans*. Lizzy's sister reacted very casually to her coming out.
"I don't care what my sister looks like. I love her just the way she is."
Lizzy's mum was also supportive, even though she was initially very worried about her future. She did annoy Lizzy at first with her many questions. Nevertheless, it was important for her to be able to really understand Lizzy. A supportive family that also actively informs itself about the topic is indeed very important for trans* (as for all LGBTIQ young people).
The public coming out followed
After coming out, Lizzy suddenly lived a double life. At home, she could be herself. But at school, she had to play a role that became increasingly uncomfortable for her.
"I saw less and less of myself in this role."
But she was terrified that she would be ostracised after coming out publicly. She had nightmares at night because she didn't know how her neighbours in this small village would react. At some point, Lizzy took heart and came out on Instagram. And was very relieved afterwards. Because the feared ostracism didn't materialise. Some people wanted to know what they should call her now or what it felt like.
Of course, things don't always go so well. Some trans* and other LGBTIQ young people struggle with bullying at school, for example. That is why it is important that teachers are also sensitised to the topic so that they are not overwhelmed in such cases and can help if necessary.
"Since coming out, I feel freer."
But there was a lot of positive feedback for Lizzy - including online on Instagram. There she can now show herself as she is, in all her femininity. Lizzy's life has become easier since coming out. Today she says: "The most important thing is that you feel ready to take the step of coming out."
Lizzy's coming out as a trans woman
In the video, Lizzy talks about her coming out as a trans woman - about insecurities, courageous steps and the moment she decided to make herself and others visible. Her story is encouraging and shows how important support and openness are in the lives of young trans people.
More on the topic of coming out
Coming out is a big step for many people - regardless of their age. It can take courage, but it also brings freedom, clarity and often a new sense of self-determination.
You are not alone: many people have similar experiences to Rolf. And there is support available - whether you are just thinking about coming out or are already in the middle of the process.
On mycomingout.com you will find tips, personal stories, counselling services and information about coming out.
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