Torsten Nobir, who actually has a different name, spends a lot of time on dating apps such as Grindr . He often comes across men who hide their true identity and use a fake Grindr profile to take the piss out of others. For this text, he tried to put himself in the shoes of such a fake profile.
Grindr experience: When the Grindr profile disappears and the date falls through
I'm one of those people whose door you're standing in front of - only my Grindr profile is suddenly nowhere to be found in the app. The name you're looking for doesn't appear on the doorbell. You try to reach me via Messenger, make a call, but: no chance. Your Grindr experience ends at the door. I'm also one of those hot guys, apparently far out of your reach, who write to you anyway. You briefly ask yourself: „Will I ever get a Grindr date from the top league?“ No. It's just me - a fake with a cheap photo from the net, a 2000s Belami actor. So much for the question „what is Grindr“ when appearance becomes more important than authenticity.
Attractive Grindr profile, no profile photo - and suddenly radio silence
If you were in your right mind, you would probably have realised it - but in your search for closeness, you overlook warning signs. I'm the one without a profile photo in the Grindr app, the one you write to: profile name „SuckMeNow“, 31, looks attractive. And that's also the one who, after a briefly flaring up, turn-on conversation in which you can really taste the fat cock, suddenly stops answering you without any warning. A chat that recharges briefly - then silence. This is exactly how dates on Grindr burst when there is nothing but emptiness behind the supposedly perfect Grindr profile. And again you ask yourself the question: What is Grindr without verification other than a place where appearance and authenticity are easily blurred?
Grindr app: When anonymous Grindr profiles get hold of your photos
You don't know who you sent your nice photos to and, above all, you won't blow the cock you were hoping for at least as a consequence from our chat. - The supposed Grindr profile remains anonymous. The hoped-for contact does not lead to a Grindr date. Does it turn me on to watch the guys who ring the wrong doorbell? Or is the idea that someone is making a useless journey enough for me? Maybe it's the pics I get to see - from arrogant guys who wouldn't even look at my profile otherwise. Maybe I'm a pretty sought-after guy myself, young and athletic, meeting all the standards. And I benefit from your naivety. Maybe I'm also a pretty hot guy myself, young and athletic by all standards. And I jerk off to your naivety, which stems from lust.
What is Grindr without verification? When fakers cause trouble
Grindr fakers definitely cause a lot of trouble, the way people always freak out. Personally, I would never go on such a long journey if I wasn't one hundred per cent sure that the grindr guy is who he is. Although I've also been fooled; when it comes to sex, you become more gullible. If you want to fool people, you have to put a bit of effort into it: the picture search, for example, if you take a Belami photo, that's bound to go through with many people. But it's better to search for real men on other platforms. The reason for this is that people really go for Romeo, along the lines of „Finally someone like that here!“ With a “SuckMeNow” profile, of course, you don't need the fuss. But you can make an effort and write an authentic profile text.
FAQ about Grindr: Profiles, fakers and dates
This FAQ section brings together questions about Grindr, Grindr profiles and Grindr dates: What is Grindr, how do fakers develop, what are the risks?
Grindr is a dating app that allows users to view profiles in their neighbourhood and make contact via chat. Depending on the context of use, expectations range from casual encounters to dates; the authenticity of the information varies greatly.
Indications are, for example, unclear or changing photos, contradictory information (age, bio), evasive answers, pressure to meet quickly or link forwarding. Individual clues prove nothing, several together are a warning signal.
Lack of commitment, fake profiles, fear of outing or simple changes of plan all play a role. Without a verified identity, the likelihood of misunderstandings is very high.
Consistent, comprehensible statements without exaggerations appear more credible. Contradictions between text and behaviour are quickly noticed in the community.
