Coming out as a deaf man - Philipp's story
Philipp initially lived a heterosexual life. But deep down, he knew that this was not his truth. Coming out was a way for him to find himself - but not an easy one.
"I was afraid to tell my parents that I was gay."
At school, Philipp often experienced how gays were spoken about in a derogatory way. He hid his feelings for a long time - until he finally found the courage to confide in his best friend.
"I just realised I couldn't keep hiding it."
I no longer wanted to meet in secret
Philipp was already in a relationship when he realised: He no longer wanted to live in hiding. No more secrets - but an open, honest life.
"I didn't always want to meet in secret. I wanted to own up to it."
He knew that it would be difficult for himself if he didn't take this step. So he made a decision: he would tell his parents the truth - even if it took courage.
"I thought I finally had to accept it for myself and be brave enough to tell my parents. Otherwise I would have had problems with myself."
Today, Philipp helps others when they are in a similar situation. He knows how difficult it can be - and how important support is.
"If someone asks me today, I'm happy to help them come out because I know it's not that easy."
"I finally wanted to live openly"
He often heard derogatory remarks at school - but at some point Philipp confided in his best friend. Today, he wants to help others to courageously come out.
More on the topic of coming out
Coming out is a big step for many people - regardless of their age. It can take courage, but it also brings freedom, clarity and often a new sense of self-determination.
You are not alone: many people have similar experiences to Rolf. And there is support available - whether you are just thinking about coming out or are already in the middle of the process.
On mycomingout.com you will find tips, personal stories, counselling services and information about coming out.
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