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  • Where do I sleep tonight?

    Where do I sleep tonight?

    The "BASIS project" in Hamburg supports hustlers. This often involves basic needs such as sleeping, eating and washing clothes. A report by Philip Eicker

    The centrepiece of the BASIS project: the washing machine (Photo: BASIS project)
    The centrepiece of the BASIS project: the washing machine (Photo: BASIS project)

    Washing machines murmur, a tumble dryer rumbles. This is what it sounds like in the centrepiece of the Hamburg "BASIS project", a windowless room in a former gay disco. The air is sauna-warm and dry, it smells of detergent and tobacco. On the floor are around three dozen travel bags, rucksacks and plastic bags, with a crumpled-up T-shirt and a single trainers in between. All of this belongs to young men who prostitute themselves here in St. Georg. Most of them have no permanent accommodation, let alone a washing machine. The BASIS project aims to fulfil their basic needs: eating, drinking, showering, sleeping for a few hours, washing clothes.

    "What most Germans consider basic services is not a matter of course for our clients," says Gerhard Schlagheck. The 45-year-old man with the distinctive blond sideburns is a social worker at BASIS. Since 1986, the Hamburg project has been looking after male prostitutes who work mainly in St. Georg. The trendy railway station district is also the centre of the gay scene. BASIS employees like Gerhard Schlagheck are out and about here at night. They carry a large shoulder bag labelled "Streetworker", hand out information material in several languages - and cruising packs consisting of a condom and a sachet of lubricant. "A good point of contact," says Schlagheck. "If necessary, I can also improvise a counselling session at the counter." Above all, however, he invites the young men to drop by the BASIS project. The majority of the hustlers are between 18 and 22 years old, and only a fifth have German citizenship.

    Gerhard Schlagheck has been a social worker at the BASIS project since 1996. (Picture: private)
    Gerhard Schlagheck has been a social worker at the BASIS project since 1996. (Picture: private)

    Very few hustlers have a fixed place to stay. Most are faced with the question every evening: Where do I sleep? Some stay with friends, others with their clients. Others spend the night half asleep, in a porn cinema, on a bar stool or on a park bench. This is where BASIS comes to the rescue with its quiet rooms, allowing the prostitutes to take at least a few hours' nap. At first glance, the sleeping area in the drop-in centre does not look inviting: a windowless room with a metal bunk bed and mattresses with black rubber covers. "It's easy to disinfect," explains Gerhard Schlagheck. A reading lamp provides some cosiness. There is a list on the outside of the door on which those needing to sleep have to sign in. A more comfortable place to rest is the project's two flats, each with five beds. Minors in particular can find short-term accommodation this way. "They can sleep in and recover in the flat," says Gerhard Schlagheck, "and look for a better, more permanent form of accommodation."

    Once the men have satisfied their basic needs, they receive further support from BASIS. The counselling topics are varied: homelessness, illness, prosecution for fare evasion or a missing ID card. Interpersonal problems are also discussed. An important cooperation partner is CASA BlancaHamburg's central advice centre for sexually transmitted diseases. For people without health insurance, it is often the only way to get rudimentary healthcare. A doctor also holds a consultation at BASIS once a week. Basic care is possible, but there is no money for long-term treatment. The service, called "Dr Georg", is only financed by donations.

    The BASIS project also provides basic medical care. (Photo: BASIS project)
    The BASIS project also provides basic medical care. (Photo: BASIS project)

    The BASIS project alleviates hardship, but it cannot - and does not want to - turn the lives of its clients upside down: "I measure my success by setting achievable goals," emphasises Gerhard Schlagheck. For example, when a hustler at BASIS showers regularly. "If you take care of your body, you're also more willing to take care in a sexual risk situation." HIV prevention was the reason why the city of Hamburg launched the BASIS project 20 years ago. "Health counselling is still our top priority," emphasises Gerhard Schlagheck, "but today we also focus on other sexually transmitted diseases." The target group also includes hustler clients. "The health prevention work of the BASIS project is intended to reach both parties involved in sexual contact," says Gerhard Schlagheck.

    When asked about changes, he explains: "Things change gradually on the street, for example when the origin of our clients changes." When Gerhard Schlagheck joined the BASIS project in 1996, most of the prostitutes came from the Czech Republic, later from Romania and now from Bulgaria. "Each of these groups has its own cultural characteristics. We have to adapt to them." And the language, of course. But no matter where the young men who sell their bodies come from, their motives and needs are the same. First of all, they have to sort things out every day: Where am I going to sleep tonight?

    To the website of the BASIS project: http://basis-projekt.de.
    The project welcomes donations of money and goods, for example in the form of clothing. Further information is available from the "Basis & Woge" organisation at www.basisundwoge.de/spenden

  • What to do in the event of HIV-related marginalisation?

    What to do in the event of HIV-related marginalisation?

    What to do in case of exclusion?

    Are you being discriminated against because of your HIV infection? Whether at work, in a public authority, in hospital or in a doctor's surgery: you don't just have to put up with it. The contact centre „HIV-related discrimination“ of Deutsche Aidshilfe supports you.

    The contact centre is there for you if you want to talk, informs you about complaint options, supports you in your personal decision and also accompanies you through the complaints procedure if you wish. It works closely with the local AIDS service organisations.

    In addition to individual counselling, the contact point is also fundamentally committed to reducing discrimination.


    Rejection during sex

    The study positive voices 2.0 clearly shows how strongly people with HIV are still confronted with rejection: More than half of those surveyed had been rejected at least once during sex in the past twelve months.

    It is therefore not surprising that almost half of the people with HIV surveyed find it difficult to talk about their HIV status during sex. Almost 80 per cent generally consider it risky to talk openly about their HIV infection.


    Prejudices and myths

    „Don't drink from the same cup.“
    „HIV-positive people are all irresponsible.“
    „You don't grow old with HIV.“

    Unfortunately, such prejudices and myths still exist today. However, they have little to do with reality.

    Today, people with HIV can lead a good and long life. Although the infection has lost much of its horror thanks to effective therapies and is now considered a chronic disease, HIV treatment also means taking medication for the rest of your life and attending regular medical check-ups.

    Above all, however, many HIV-positive people still experience marginalisation and discrimination - and this is precisely the greater burden for many.


    What needs to be done?

    The good news is that 40 per cent of those surveyed said that they have been able to use the Protection through therapy experience less discrimination.

    Protection through therapy means: HIV medication suppresses the multiplication of the virus in the body to such an extent that HIV can no longer be transmitted during sex.

    HIV is not transmissible under effective therapy.

    Many in the gay community are already aware of this fact - but not everyone is. This makes it all the more important to spread knowledge and make it clear: For people with HIV in Germany, it is usually not HIV itself that is the biggest problem, but marginalisation, rejection and discrimination.


    What we want to change together

    We from ICH WEISS WAS ICH TU will continue to be:

    • raise awareness of discrimination against people with HIV, including in the gay community
    • help to reduce the stigmatisation of people with HIV
    • Making discriminatory structures visible, breaking them down and changing them
    • show real and authentic pictures of life with HIV
    • Strengthen solidarity with stigmatised and discriminated groups

  • What queer generations can learn from each other

    What queer generations can learn from each other

    „Everything used to be better“ - This sentence certainly does not apply to gay life. Anyone who remembers Paragraph 175 or the AIDS crisis of the 1980s knows how much fear, marginalisation and inequality were part of everyday life for queer people. And yet the history of gay life in Germany is not just a story of pain and loss. It is also a story of courage, solidarity and a collective fight for more freedom. This is exactly what „Together through time“.

    Two generations in dialogue

    In the video, Georg and Sebastian take us on a personal journey through time. Two perspectives, two generations, one conversation: about how queer life has changed, what used to be particularly stressful and why it is worthwhile to keep in touch with each other across generations.

    Memories of another life

    For many older gay men, memories of a life of hiding, caution and social rejection are still present today. Anyone who looks at greater visibility, legal recognition and more open lifestyles today should not forget that these developments were hard-won. The 50-plus generation in particular has helped to create spaces in which queer life is now possible as a matter of course. IWWIT therefore also categorises the video in the thematic field of „Life in old age“ in.

    At the same time, the video shows that it is not just about the past. It is also about the question of what connects younger and older queer people today. Experiences of discrimination may have changed, but they have not disappeared. Loneliness, the need to belong and the search for role models also affect different generations - albeit in different ways. This is precisely why talks like this are so important: they create understanding, build bridges and make it clear that queer history is not abstract, but lives on in biographies. This is an obvious conclusion from the IWWIT description of the video and its embedding in the field of queer life.

    „Together through time“ is a reminder that progress does not fall from the sky. It comes about when people stand up for each other, organise themselves and share their stories. Today's community is built on the experiences of those who came before it. And it remains strong if these experiences are not lost.

    Queer life is something common

    Perhaps that is the most important message of the video: There are differences between the generations, but also a great opportunity. Those who listen can understand where we come from. Those who tell stories can pass on what carries them. And if you allow both, you quickly realise: queer life was never just individual - it was always something shared.

    Queer generations in dialogue

    Georg and Sebastian talk about gay life in the past and today. The video shows how important remembrance, exchange and cohesion between queer generations are.

    Further perspectives on ageing

    Here you will find more interesting articles about ageing, health, relationships and life as a gay man.

    Need someone to talk to?

    Whether acute or simply for orientation - sometimes it helps to talk to someone in confidence.
    Use the Gay Health Chat - the button at the bottom right will accompany you on the page. There you can chat anonymously and free of charge:

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  • You bitch! - Is there such a thing as "too many" sex partners?

    You bitch! - Is there such a thing as "too many" sex partners?

    How many men have you had sex with in the last 12 months: 3? 15? 50? More than 100? Does the number say something about you - and if so, what?

    What does the word "slut" mean? We asked around a bit and got the following explanations, among others.

    "Some say slut - I say sexually very successful."

    (Jörg, 36 years old from Leipzig)

    Some people say "slut" - I say "sexually very successful".
    (Jörg, 36 years old from Leipzig)

    "For me, a slut is someone who fucks anyone who isn't three on the tree."
    (Ben, 24 from Essen)

    "Anyone who calls others a slut is just jealous and sexually unsatisfied themselves."
    (Frank, 31 years old from Berlin)

    But there were also quite a few voices, like that of Daniel (28 from Bremen):
    "It's not my place to make judgements about other people's sex lives. That doesn't just apply to 'what you do' but also to 'how many you do it with'."

    "It's not my place to make judgements about other people's sex lives. That doesn't just apply to 'what you do' but also to 'how many you do it with'.

    Daniel (28 from Bremen)

    If you ask the same people at what point they become a slut, the respondents are much more uncertain in their assessment. Here, the number fluctuates between 5 and 50 sex partners - within a year, mind you.

    And when asked how many "gay sluts" there are, opinions also differed in our non-representative survey: one of the respondents had a clear opinion with "every 2nd gay just fucks around". But is that true? A look at the current study "Gay men and HIV/Aids", which was conducted by the Free University of Berlin and will be published in spring 2016, paints a different picture:

    Out of almost 13,500 respondents, 2 per cent (i.e. around 270 men) had had more than 50 different sex partners within the last twelve months. The majority of the study participants - namely 36 per cent - had 2 to 5 sex partners within the period in question. For some of our respondents, 5 sex partners was already too many. This means that around 4,860 men's "lifestyle would be considered immoral" (as Wikipedia defines "slut". Interestingly, Wikipedia only uses this term in relation to women ...) But of course that's only part of the truth: the same study also found that more than 80 per cent of respondents wanted a committed relationship. So what does slut mean here?

    To put it in a nutshell: Nobody has the right to call someone else a slut just because they supposedly have (too) many sex partners - or because they are thought to be more susceptible to HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases due to a particularly high level of sexual activity.

    Because - directly or indirectly - one claim is often linked to the other. But this is not true either: it is a fact that the number of sexual contacts is not the decisive factor in becoming infected. This is why prevention campaigns such as I KNOW WHAT I DO say that you should get tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections at least once a year - regardless of whether you only have sex with your boyfriend or are single with two, five or more than ten partners a year. And where? At these test centres, for example www.iwwit.de/teststellen or at the family doctor.

    It is well known that the gay scene is not squeamish when it comes to insulting others: insults such as "You bitch!" are just one of many. We agree with the aforementioned Daniel from Bremen, who didn't want to pass judgement on the sex lives of others. He says: "Ultimately, everyone should concentrate on themselves and their lives and be at peace with themselves. After all, only one thing counts: being satisfied and happy - regardless of whether you have one or 50 sex partners."

    The gay scene is not known to be squeamish. "You bitch!" is just one of many insults.

  • Guido tells his story

    Guido tells his story

    Guido has lived in Munich for almost 40 years. He has been with his partner for just as long. Born in Belgium, he was previously briefly married to a woman, but then came out. As a gay activist, he was also on the board of the German AIDS organisation Deutsche AIDS-Hilfe. When he was diagnosed with HIV, the 68-year-old asked himself one question in particular: Will my partner be able to forgive me? A conversation about living with HIV, sexuality in old age and the fear of dying.

    The diagnosis was not the biggest shock

    Guido, can you still remember the time of your HIV diagnosis?
    Yes, that was in 1998, when I was suddenly in very poor health. I could hardly breathe and had a few other complaints, so my GP sent me to an internist who carried out a rapid HIV test. The result was positive.

    How did you feel at that moment?
    Of course it was more than unpleasant, but somehow it didn't feel quite so dramatic, which was due to the fact that considerable progress had been made in HIV therapy since 1996. In this sense, the diagnosis didn't lead to a death shock and the most important question was not: Will I die soon?

    What was much more dramatic was that I had to tell my partner about it. I had to confess to him that I had been infected outside of our relationship. That was my main problem, which also made me feel guilty for a long time. Fortunately, I didn't infect him.

    Guido is standing outside with his partner; both are smiling and standing close together.
    Guido with his partner, who has given him support and closeness for many years.

    How did your partner react at the time?
    He said to me quite succinctly: "Nothing will change between us. I've never received a greater proof of love in my life.

    Do you actually know how you got infected?
    No, I couldn't reconstruct afterwards how, when and with whom it happened. I also felt very miserable about it.

    Living openly - but not with everyone

    Have you told friends and family about your infection?
    That was a bit difficult. On the one hand, I was on the federal board of Deutsche AIDS-Hilfe at the time and felt the responsibility to publicise my infection. I did that to some extent. On the other hand, I didn't want to tell God and the world about my infection; I didn't talk about it with my family, for example. It was difficult enough for my parents to have a gay son in the first place.

    And what feedback did you receive from those you introduced?
    My circle of friends was relatively relaxed. I found out in a roundabout way that some people were worried about me, but they didn't have a problem and behaved completely normally towards me. The fact that I didn't experience any discrimination at all is certainly also due to the fact that I was in an appropriate environment, both as a gay activist and as an HIV counsellor and board member of the German AIDS service organisation.

    Professionally, however, I remember exactly when my boss at the time said, even before my own diagnosis, that he would rather not shake hands with gay people now.

    Today it's all about getting older

    What does your HIV status mean to you today?
    HIV is the smallest problem I have. The viral load is undetectable, the helper cells are in the normal range. All the other illnesses are much worse. I have high blood pressure, diabetes, my kidneys are broken and I'm on dialysis. 

    I don't know what proportion of this is due to HIV or the medication and what is due to age itself. But it's also pointless to speculate. The loss of libido, which is also caused by the medication, is a completely different issue.

    What do libido and sexuality mean to you?
    I know that many people will protest now, but the fact is that sexuality becomes less important with age. For me at least, sex became less and less interesting as I got older. I used to live a very active and pleasurable sexual life. The urge to experience a lot now is simply no longer there. When I see others who act like professional youths, I always feel a bit ashamed of myself.

    Are you afraid of the future?
    Well. I'm now 68 years old and just starting to plan my 70th birthday, which I'm really looking forward to. But: I'm also afraid, especially of becoming a care case. Will I no longer be able to wash myself or go to the toilet? For me, it's not actually death that's the problem, but the path to it, the slow dying. Then there's the fear that my partner could go before me. That would be really bad.

    Looking at today: Where do you stand in life?
    Overall, I'm doing very well. I'm very happy that I've had my partner for 38 years, so I don't have the typical age-related problem of loneliness. What's more, we do a lot with other people. But that's also because we've never cut ourselves off from our surroundings. We have a regular gay and lesbian get-together and we go bowling once a month with another clique. So we really don't know loneliness at all.

    Living with HIV: Guido in the video

    In the video, Guido talks openly about the moment of his HIV diagnosis, about feelings of guilt and about his partner's reaction, which is still very important to him today. He also talks about how his view of HIV, health, sexuality and ageing has changed over the years.

    Further perspectives on ageing

    Here you will find more interesting articles about ageing, health, relationships and life as a gay man.

    Need someone to talk to?

    Whether acute or simply for orientation - sometimes it helps to talk to someone in confidence.
    Use the Gay Health Chat - the button at the bottom right will accompany you on the page. There you can chat anonymously and free of charge:

    - Personal live advice in the chat
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    - Information on health, law, everyday life and more